Here we go, peeps! Today's self inflicted wound is courtesy of my dear pal, Irene Sobolov.
Apparently, she forwarded a 2-word text "butt buddies" to the entire school board and Hoboken Superintendent!
GA spoke to Irene this morning; here is what the term "butt buddies" means to her:
And that's why I call Irene a "Pollyanna."
Because to GA, "butt buddies" is an offensive reference to the LGBTQ community.
Irene understands that words have power, feels "horrible" and that she owes the LBGTQ community an apology.
GA gives Mike DeFusco props for being gracious and accepting Irene's apology.
I accept it, too and so should you. No one person that I know has given more to our community- quietly, privately, selflessly- for years. She doesn't have a mean- or homophobic- bone in her body. The sun always shines in Irene's heart.
Of course, the foul-mouthed Hoboken Board Trustee John Madigan has a new toy to play with.
Two sources witnessed the following: at a 2009 board meeting Foul-mouthed Madigan, after hearing the new Board majority dissolved his employment, stood up shouted to the female Kids First members:
And then the Summons Foul-mouthed Madigan got in 2010 for allegedly shouting obscenities at Theresa Minutillo, walking with her 3 year-old daughter.
This Paragon of Indecency, John Madigan, who is alleged by witnesses to have shouted "C*nts!" and "Dykes!" at female board members plans to call for Irene Sobolov's RESIGNATION from the School Board tonight.
Wow.
Let's see WHO falls in line with that FOUL- MOUTHED MORON.
Apparently, she forwarded a 2-word text "butt buddies" to the entire school board and Hoboken Superintendent!
GA spoke to Irene this morning; here is what the term "butt buddies" means to her:
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And that's why I call Irene a "Pollyanna."
Because to GA, "butt buddies" is an offensive reference to the LGBTQ community.
Irene understands that words have power, feels "horrible" and that she owes the LBGTQ community an apology.
APOLOGY from BoE Trustee Irene Sobolov
"The text message was intended for a conversation I was having with two girlfriends, musing on the interesting and often changing political landscape in Hoboken. A term was used that I always understood to mean “good friends,” or in this particular case, interesting political friends.
Of course I was embarrassed when I realized my mistake, and then mortified when I learned that Mr. Madigan interpreted the text to mean that I was homophobic. Nothing could be further from the truth.
It is not who I am, nor reflected in anything I have ever done or said before.
I have personally apologized to my board colleagues, the administration and to Councilman De Fusco. I reached out to many family members, friends and community members, including those in the LGBT community, and I am grateful for their support and understanding. It is important that I use this situation as a learning experience and perhaps spur a positive community conversation about the importance of being ever mindful of the power of words.
I truly regret the situation and sincerely apologize to those impacted."
Oye Vey! |
GA gives Mike DeFusco props for being gracious and accepting Irene's apology.
I accept it, too and so should you. No one person that I know has given more to our community- quietly, privately, selflessly- for years. She doesn't have a mean- or homophobic- bone in her body. The sun always shines in Irene's heart.
Of course, the foul-mouthed Hoboken Board Trustee John Madigan has a new toy to play with.
Two sources witnessed the following: at a 2009 board meeting Foul-mouthed Madigan, after hearing the new Board majority dissolved his employment, stood up shouted to the female Kids First members:
"You fuckin' c*nts! You fuckin dykes! I'm gonna punch you in the fuckin' face!"After that, at a Hoboken festival, Foul-mouthed Madigan allegedly shouted "Bitch!" at female Board member in front of her young son.
And then the Summons Foul-mouthed Madigan got in 2010 for allegedly shouting obscenities at Theresa Minutillo, walking with her 3 year-old daughter.
This Paragon of Indecency, John Madigan, who is alleged by witnesses to have shouted "C*nts!" and "Dykes!" at female board members plans to call for Irene Sobolov's RESIGNATION from the School Board tonight.
Wow.
Let's see WHO falls in line with that FOUL- MOUTHED MORON.
Madigan has probably said a lot worse about LGBT people
ReplyDeleteMike and Irene chatted, hugged it out
Nothing to see here
The community has bigger issues to unite over
Madigan is an unstable pig
ReplyDeleteMadigan shows up late to meetings, barely participate in committees, and doesn't show up to school events. He pounds the dais table yelling about teachers getting help with parking and has a history of verbal abuse targeted at women... Yeah, he has a LOT of chutzpah here. He is scary and unhinged.
ReplyDeleteDoesn't Madigan have a nickname like Psycho or something ?
ReplyDeleteDeFusco has an interesting social circle.
Irene is a much loved member of Hoboken. Honestly I thought butt buddies was like bosom pals never knew it had any kind of gay connotation. I think some people are using this to beat her up unfairly. She said sorry.
ReplyDeleteI am not a Pollyanna but I have only used the term butt buddies to mean connected at the hip. It never occurred to me that people would think it was a gay slur. As far as I know, gay sex doesn't generally entail butts rubbing together (I should note I've never had gay sex so if someone has a different understanding based on experience please enlighten me).
DeleteSame, I never made that connection.
DeleteThe dark side always overplays their hand. Wait and see.
ReplyDeleteAllegedly, Madigan erupted at a school board meeting several years ago when his job was eliminated for lots of reasons, such as it didn't really exist. He stood up and said: "You fucking cunts! You fucking dykes! I'm gonna punch you in the fucking face". He is a homophobic, misogynistic embarrassing disaster who has no place on our school board. He is the one who should be resigning.
ReplyDeleteIrene was unfairly attacked. I'm happy DeFusco didn't take the bait and defended Irene and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteLets save our energy for the kids out there who are REALLY being bashed and ignore this Madigan creep! Shame on a certain School Parents gang who are tagging the entire town on Facebook with this NJ#com crap story. Adios!
If said board member had used a racially or ethnically charged phrase, she'd be toast.
ReplyDeleteBut when it's anti-LGBT nonsense, it's easy to get a pass.
So true
DeleteDoesn't sound like she's getting a pass. Any other reason why media outlets were invited?
DeleteExcept "butt buddies" is not a homophobic slur no matter how much Madigan and his cronies would like to make it, unlike "dyke" which is, and "cunt" which is misogynistic, both of which Madigan used, before threatening to "punch you in the fucking face".
DeleteShe better not get a pass .. time for retirement .. butt buddy
DeleteThis is about a personal vendetta that Madigan has because his job was deemed non-essential years ago and was laid off. That's what everyone should be paying attention to. He only does things to get back at people and unfortunately serves on a board that affects everyone, so we have to suffer through his tantrums.
ReplyDeleteSeveral thoughts:
ReplyDelete1. I hear that a national news organization has been spoon fed the story by some person with deep ties to Hoboken politics. It also appears that someone with shit for brains and deep political ties to Hoboken and is a vehement political opponent to Irene is employed by said news organization. What a fucking coincidence that said news organization would be sniffing around a local story that seems to have been resolved by an apology. So much for journalistic integrity, covering a story to assist an employee's political vendetta.
2. Madigan is a PIG. And he is total embarrassment and horrible example for the students of Hoboken, hypocritical asshole.
3. Bet you anything that MD tries to use this for political purposes, despite accepting Irene's apology. The argument will go that this is just another sad example of the Zimmer administration and her supporters being insensitive to gay rights, that this reflects so poorly on Hoboken yadda yadda yadda. Maybe he will surprise me and not use this opportunity to confirm himself to be the sneaky arrogant petulant little turd that he has already shown himself to be. Naw. He cant miss the camera opportunity.
Considering that DF backed IS and has already accepted her apology it would be an awkward media dance for him to try to use it as a personal attack.
DeleteI would not be surprised if some local in the news biz with a massive political grudge isn't slanting and shopping the story.
I was waiting for the Defusco bashing to start. It sure didn't take very long.
DeleteSo in other words DF can do no right? Please....
DeleteDeFusco sidekick was telling people about Irene's text. Now we KNOW WHO shopped the story to media. It's gonna blow up in his face.
DeleteNo, you might want to ask Irene, I hear she credits the "sidekick" with trying to defuse the situation once Madigan was forwarding it around.
DeleteNice Try though
The scumbags that shopped this to the media are the story, not the dumb text.
DeleteMadigan is central to the story. But the media ( NJ.com,CNNandNBC ) took the bait- I guess Andersen Cooper will cover the slant about the scumbags who shopped it....
DeleteLooks like DeFusco is taking the high road and reiterating that he accepts the apology on his Facebook page.
DeleteCNN is here too. Oh boy
ReplyDeleteWell when a popular Mayor makes a statement to the media, it's bound to call even more attention to the issue and add fuel to the fire- and why CNN is here now too.
DeleteNow is the time for Zimmer, DeFusco and Irene work together to correct this so that LGBT residents don't think this town is a hateful place.
Irene is not a bad person and I imagine she feels horrible
If they live here they know it is not already.
DeleteThese political stunts are disgusting.
Councilman DeFusco has everything to gain by accepting the apology and making this a "teaching moment." From a political point of view it would not help him alienating a great deal of people in Hoboken if he decides to run for city wide office in November.
ReplyDeleteDawn will give out a plaque next week and a Proclamation about Equality and think she did her part. She'll roll out some Juan Melli'd pre-written factoids and talk about a gay friend and a wedding she performed.
ReplyDeleteBoy, don't be surprised if Phil Murphy's motorcade gets stuck in traffic next week on the way to zimmer's 1%-er Pay to Play event next week...
Fire her !! .. she's so nasty .. I don't want my children on that school anymore
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have children.
DeletePlease, do I understand this story? Does it get better than this?
ReplyDelete1. The Old Guard is trying to make a big deal about the term "butt buddies"? Not Pollyana, but not a federal offense.
2. The Old Guard hasn't found anyone on the city council to take this silly onslaught on Irene on? No? Failing that, not even a seasoned Board of Ed member? Somebody in City Hall maybe? Maybe Pupie even? C'mon give me something to work with here..however, c'mon...c'mon...Madigan? MADIGAN? I repeat: MADIGAN? Desperate maybe Old Guard? I didn't know it was possible to be that desperate! Does Madigan even OWN a tie to present in? Or is he going to show up in a ratty baseball hat and an "I'm with stupid!" t-shirt? Don't they realize he going to come off like.........well, I guess they do know he going to come off like some kind of Beavis and Butthead send-up, but I guess Russo and Ramos won't touch it, Castellano won't come out of retirement for this (even though on her Facebook page it still says she's on the City Council)......even still..... put Madigan in front of a network camera??? With his easily verifiable and recent history of sexual insensitivity calling women the "C" word and more? Harassing people with young children at their side?
3. Yeah Old Guard, this is going to be good.......however, not for you. You will be completely exposed as the knuckleheads you are. I am going to take a while to stop grinning everytime I think of Madigan being thrown out onstage stammering through some copy someone else wrote trying to play the part of a gay advocate.....now THAT"S entertainment. It'll be side-splittingly funny if he starts to ad lib, and I'll bet he can't help himself.
This is going to be great!! Thank you Old Guard! However, you should have stuck with Callichio--he could have pulled this off better!!